5 Reasons Women Struggle With Embodying Their Power

More and more Women are on a mission to rediscover and reclaim their power but it can feel like trying to unlock the Davinci code itself. As we dive into the rabbit hole of where this mysterious power disappeared to in the first place, then when we do discover it, the puzzle of how to actually embody this power has the mind do mental gymnastics. When we get to the point of embodying the power, we then are confronted with the fact that not many people actually like us in the power, so now need to relearn how to relate from this empowered place.

It’s suddenly not so enticing to embody our power and feels like a recipe for burn out. Let’s explore why it is such a struggle to embody your power as a Woman and how you can be best prepared for the journey of embodying the Powerful Woman you are…

1. Women Prioritise Their Relationships With Others Over Their Relationship With Self.

Many Women don’t have enough solo time to be with their power so they have no idea what their power actually feels like. Embodying our own power asks us to get intimate with it through cultivating an intimacy with ourselves. This includes getting up close & personal with the parts of ourselves we avoid most (the shadow). We have been taught to pour into our relationships and if we anticipate us being in our power as a threat to our relationships, we’ll shut our power down. It also asks that we learn to relate differently, which then creates resistance from those we’re in relationship with. This is because it only takes one person to shift the dynamic of a relationship, so when you shift, it will subconsciously ask the other to shift too. Again, if we feel this will lead to the collapse in our relationships, we’ll try to avoid this outcome through avoiding embodying our power.

2. Women Haven’t Been Taught How To Hold Their Power In Their Body.

To hold our power is to hold the intensity of our feelings and the sensations they carry through our bodies. Women have been shamed for their sensitivity, emotionality and sensuality and so have learnt to either numb out or give their power away through externalising it. The body needs to be trained to expand its capacity to hold our power without freaking out and shutting it down. A key piece to this is retraining the nervous system to know it is safe to hold this power. That we are safe with this power and this power is safe with us. Only through cultivating this internal sense of safety by supporting the nervous system to relax in the intensity of our power, can we begin to fully let our power in.

3. Women In Their Power Are Villainized.

Powerful Women have been feared for millenia.

Burnt at the stake for their intuitive power.

Slut shamed for their sensual power.

A boardroom bitch for her business acumen.

A gold digger for her relating standards…

Women in their Power are not liked. We have been trained to confuse been liked with been loved. Embodiment of our power asks that we be OK with being villainized and accept that other people will be wrong about us. We also need to be open to our social circle shifting along the way because of this, that those who feel threatened by our embodiment because they haven’t yet embodied their power, may no longer be aligned with our lives. This asks that we be anchored enough in our own perception, belief and trust in our power and path to not be swayed by the perceptions and direction of others.

4. We Confuse Power With Unhealthy Masculinity

We have been taught Powerful looks a certain way which is often dogmatic, forceful and overly penetrative. However, for many Women, their own unique Feminine Power doesn’t look or feel this way so they might dismiss or overlook its’ authenticity through trying to shapeshift into the conditioned view of power. If a Woman’s power is soft like honey as opposed to sharp like vinegar, she might not perceive its value or impact simply because of her own misconceptions of what a Woman in her power should look like.

Alternatively, we might be so repelled by this misconception of power that we avoid our own power to avoid becoming like ‘them’. Many look at the leaders of today whose decisions lack compassion, humanity and morality; fearing power because they believe it is the power that made them this way. Power, like money, is neutral; it’s our choices around how we use them which shifts the energy behind them.

5. We Subconsciously Give Our Power Away Through Energy Leaks

We haven’t been taught how to manage our energy or maintain energetic hygiene

We unknowingly leak energy through spaces, people, work, circumstances, what we consume, emotional and sexual interactions. Many believe energetic hygiene is determined by the things we do externally and it is to an extent. But the real influencer on all of this is the decisions we make subconsciously through our shadow, about who and what we call in to consume and interact with. When these subconscious and conscious choices are misaligned with our energy, it drains and dilutes our power.

To embody our power, it asks that we surround ourselves with energy which is a match with our power embodiment or higher. It asks us to get conscious with our shadow to understand why and what we’ve been calling in. It asks us to honestly explore how we’ve been benefiting from leaking energy in this way subconsciously, before then having conscious discernment with who & what enters our mind, body and energetic field.

Now you have some idea around the subconscious and energetic mechanics of why it feels exhausting to begin embodying your power before you’ve even tried.

Perhaps you’re already on this journey and one of the five reasons listed feels most alive and prominent for you in your life now?

Either way, the intention is that with this awareness, brings preparation and insight on how to support your mind, body and energy as you move through your journey into embodying the Powerful Woman you are.